you can send those pics from ur phone to ur e-mail then get them from there thats what I usually do :)

Pete,

Not sure how to go about this................... I know through conversation that you are a GREAT Dad and that is your number one priority, but also myself being a "stepfather" I think sometime we feel like we get left out, or that we are looking in from the outside...........again I in no way am trying to tell you how to live your life ..........I'm just making an observation from expierience for you to keep in the back of your mind...................who knows maybe this young lady has never been treated like a human being and been part of a loving family and has no idea how to act around such a stable well rounded relationship {you and your son} but i also think we all want to be a part of something even if we don't know how -------- welcome to the challenge, lol

I only say this because i think you kinda like this gal, lol cause you can see through all the crap.

Boss

Ok Peter...See instructions below...

A. Are you *in* love with her?
B. Is she *good* for your life?

INSTRUCTIONS:
Read question A.
If the answer is no, stop there.
If the answer is yes, continue.
Read question B.
If the answer is no, stop there.
If the answer is yes, repeat instructions.

Zambize

Peter,
If you'll remember, I'm a psychotherapist and I primarily provide therapy for teenagers. I can't provide professional advice in this situation, but I can tell you what I think. Red flags all over, that's what I think. I hear disconnected thoughts that aren't really grounded in your beliefs and values. (We call that cognitive dissonance :) This state is when we make our very worst decisions. *Warning* I'll probably sound harsh...

I'm hearing....
1) She's good for me, even though in the past she's proven that she isn't.
2) Even though I had a bad experience with her before, she might change. [people don't, Peter]
3) We're in "transition", but the future is uncertain. [so how do you know what you're transitioning too?]
4) Their *actual* father is opposed to me, but I think it's stupid so I'll do what I want. [what about the turmoil it may cause his kids if he's unhappy?]
5) We both agree on what she needs to do to be a good partner for me, so she'll do that.
6) I'm having a relationship with a woman whose children are bad for my son.

Any *one* of these is usually enough to send teenagers, their parents and other family members into a tailspin and into my office. And sometimes the damage takes years to repair.

Sorry to be rough, and I'm sure you'll have an explanation for all 6...LOL...but hearing and experiencing what I hear all day forces me to throw in my $1.00's worth. Actually, that'd be $120 an hour....LOL

Zambize

I'm not seeing her kids at this point so I'm not causing strife with her ex. He sees them 4 supervised hours every 2 weeks. Sharon was sexually abused by her minister whom her mother has loved for many years and her father has been missing for most of her life. I seem to be a good influence on Sharon as she is making better decisions now toward her future. Yes, she hurt me very badly and I don't like the way she raises her kids. As far as the kids go I don't see a future with me and my son. I have a very joyful relationship with my son and we eat well and he doesn't like eating unhealthy food. She buys her kids what I considder crap and wastes huge amounts of food with them.

I agree there are red flags all over this relationship, but I do love her. I feel as if we fit together very well and I love the way she smells and the way she feels when I hold her not to mention the amazing sex. Maybe this is a situation where we will be friends for our lives and the woman I marry, if I ever marry, is somone else.

I do have experiences with non monogamy and also monogamy and there has been real caring and love in both cases. I don't know what the future will be when I get my career on track and have the money to buy land and a home. All I know is that Sharon won't be moving in with me any time soon and probably not at all. If the ecomomy goes down and food and water is hard to find I am thinking of the nomadic life where I have some guns and ammo, maybe some horses too, and my son and maybe Sharon and her kids. Then I will have a lot more control of the situation and will command respect as well as everyone sharing one conciosness so we can move without attracting attention.. Hope it doesn't get to that pont though!